At a recent conference I attended it had been the culmination of years of work to get and a personal referral from a friend. This conference just wasn't happening and wasn't even on the horizon for that matter if it weren't for this great friend.
That being said this person was not attending the conference they had made happen due to a family birthday. No worries, schedules happen and I will never give another person a hard time for committing to their family.
However, they did show up. But they showed up after putting down a bottle of wine while driving. WHAT?!?!
Okay, so I am not Mr. Teetotaler and I realize I don't know all the pain going on in this person's life due to a pending divorce, but the same week I found out some back story on another friend.
This person has been subjected to domestic abuse for more than a day or two. She has worked through law enforcement, caregivers, etc. She has been beated, bruised and tattered. Her answer wasn't the bottle.
In truth, I don't even care about the bottle in my first friend's case that much, but I do care that they let the bottle ease the pain enough to make bad decisions. Getting behind the wheel or drinking so much that you are unable to stand on your own is not the person I know. The person I know is ten times stronger and asks for help from their friends.
Please don't destroy yourself because someone else is trying to. Let the rest of us help. Like the graphic I saw on another friend's Facebook page, go where the love is. Find those people that want to help you through tough times and don't make your tough times harder. Please.
Once is a mistake, but twice is a choice. Don't run from help, run to it.
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